Tag: friends

True self

Posted on by philipdodson

For connections and relationships with other people to work and be true, we do not need to change who we are. We need to be our true self, we need to be 100% ourself. Not the many roles that our ego wants us to act out.

If others are unable to be comfortable with us being our true essence then it is not our challenge.

It does not mean that we have to be hostile as that is the action of the mind and its ego. We can be respectful for of others but at the same time being true to ourself.

When we are clear to others that we respect our true essence then others will reciprocate and respect us.

Fixing and ego

Posted on by philipdodson

We all have a unique path and journey, each one of us. Just because we had a similar experiences that doesn’t mean that our friend, partner, child, parent or stranger had exactly the same. Additionally it may have occurred at a different part of our growth in life, we are different so how we reacted would have been different too, so the whole experience would have changed.

Essentially, it is better to listen, understand and empathise with our friend, partner, child, parent or stranger, rather than make about ourselves and our story, which they often may not want to hear or care about.

Fixing and telling others is not understanding, it is ego. If they seek our view or advice, that is different, but simply using the time in which the other is speaking to prepare our answer about our story is simply all about us.