Tag: courage

Why is the obstacle the path?

Posted on by philipdodson

Why is the obstacle the path?

Whatever we fear the most in life is what we should be doing. It is our guide to what the moment wants us to do.

We never fear anything that we do not care about.

We are all part of the one life, the universe and we are a multiple part of that universal consciousness. If the path was easy there would be no experience to be gained. The universe wants to experience itself in as many forms as possible, in fact, it is limitless.

Therefore, beyond our primary purpose to just be and to simply be a being, our secondary purpose is to take our unique gift and give it to the world. That will mean overcoming obstacles and the bigger the obstacle the more likely our purpose is beyond that and we are on the right path to fulfilling that purpose.

Of course, as all forms are temporary, our secondary purpose will change constantly and new obstacles will block the path. Our primary purpose to just be is permanent like this now moment.

So whatever obstacle you are hiding from, fearing, avoiding, running away from…turn round and tackle it. It is a courageous person who chooses to challenge their biggest obstacles and it will, like all things, take one step at a time.

Without obstacles in our path there is no purpose.

We have to take that first step now.

Brave communication

Posted on by philipdodson

We need to all be brave enough to have the difficult conversations in our lives otherwise miscommunication, resentment and shame continue to dominate our interactions as humans.

It means that we have to be brave enough to listen, as well as speak, and most importantly, when we feel uncomfortable and feel the urge to be silent or walk away.

We need to be brave enough to understand others first and to allow them to be seen. Understanding others and allowing them to be seen is the most powerfully part of communication, how can we respond if we do not understand the other person?

We need courage in being able to receive feedback too, even if the other person may be struggling with how to tell us. If we assume that it comes from a place of good intention, then there is something in there for us to learn.

We need to be brave in creating a space where others can feel safe in expressing themselves, even if they are like all of us, they may struggle to express themselves well. That doesn’t mean that they are not valid. Of course, we can ask for time to consider and we do not have to accept unkind choices of behaviour by others.

Communication is one of the hardest things we have to do as humans. It is the thing that, amazingly, we are never taught. Our role models such as parents, teachers and other leaders are also struggling with communication too so they show us bad examples mainly.

It perpetuates until we are all collectively brave enough to be able to speak truthfully from our hearts in a kind, compassionate and empathetic way. When we are able to have the courage to have the hard conversations and not shy away from them because it is painful for us, then we can start to make lasting changes in how we as humans communicate with each other.

We have to be first to demonstrate this courage and lead by example, not by telling others that they are doing wrong.

Out and out bare ‘truth’ is damaging, when it is really other emotions and shaming dressed up as just being honest. Even if we perceive our ‘truth’ to be accurate we should be brave enough not to use that in a harmful and unkind way.