Tag: help

Lighthouses

Posted on by philipdodson

We do not need to set out to help others…people are not broken and do not need fixing.

Yet we set out with what we believe is a good intention to change or fix others as they appear broken through the lens of our mind’s view of them. They haven’t asked to be fixed or changed and what was good for our journey isn’t their journey. We are all on our own path.

Of course, we can be a light and example for others to help them if they need it or to inspire them.

After all, a lighthouse does not sail the seas looking for ships to help, it shines its light for them when they need it.

Fixing and ego

Posted on by philipdodson

We all have a unique path and journey, each one of us. Just because we had a similar experiences that doesn’t mean that our friend, partner, child, parent or stranger had exactly the same. Additionally it may have occurred at a different part of our growth in life, we are different so how we reacted would have been different too, so the whole experience would have changed.

Essentially, it is better to listen, understand and empathise with our friend, partner, child, parent or stranger, rather than make about ourselves and our story, which they often may not want to hear or care about.

Fixing and telling others is not understanding, it is ego. If they seek our view or advice, that is different, but simply using the time in which the other is speaking to prepare our answer about our story is simply all about us.