Acceptance is the first step

There is always learning from every single moment and every single situation. There is never a good or bad moment, just what is.

It is only the human mind that labels things good or bad.

All we need to focus on is the present moment and always accepting it as it is. It is futile to do anything else as everything that has happened has, of course, already happened and is therefore unchangeable. All we can do is then choose how we react to anything. If we do it from a place of inner peace and acceptance, then there is no agenda, attachment or ego in our choice.

If we deny what is, that negative energy fighting against something that can not be changed then creates emotions and we become the reaction. We act from a place that is emotional, negative and driven by our ego.

The reaction back from the world will reflect that, the same as when we act from inner peace, the reaction back from the world will also reflect that. However, this time it will be one that is positive.

All of this is easy to say and write and very hard to practice as we are conditioned to react to things that we believe are a threat to the story of ‘me’ and the ego will do whatever it takes to protect itself from any perceived threat.

It takes a brave first step to change, we have to be the ones to take that first step and not wait for the other to change. When we take a small step it is easy, when we try to make giant leaps it is hard.

Just a step to say ‘I accept what is’ and take a slow and deep breath. Then we can take another small step…how will I react? Already, that momentary pause will allow the initial condition reaction to have lost its energy and the more we observe it rather than become it, the quicker it will pass.

The steps are one by one and acceptance is the first one.

Why did I stop writing?

I used to blog every single day for literally 6 years or more. Then in March this year, after a few months of struggling to write every day, I stopped completely. It’s been a long time now since I have blogged, the longest break in all my years of writing.

Why did I stop writing?

I told myself nonsense. I listened to the mind and all its sabotage. I choose to allow myself to believe the stories that I have been making up all my life. I said ‘What’s the point?’ and stuff like ‘it’s rubbish’ and ‘no one cares’.

To be honest, it doesn’t matter if nobody cares or it’s ‘rubbish’ as I realised a long time ago, I am actually writing for myself and if someone else benefits too, then great, but if not it really does not matter. I lost sight of that and my ego and mind became active again.

I started to listen and analyse everything which was present not just in my writing but also in my life. I had slipped heavily back into my unconscious mind and all its repeating mind streams.

I had slipped back to moaning, judging, complaining, and the stories of ‘poor little me’. All of this only leads to suffering and we seem to be completely OK with inflicting this upon ourselves on a daily basis.

Have I gone back to just being and floating on my cloud like Buddha? No…I was not there before. What’s different now is I am not kidding myself that I am there. When we create this persona that we are ‘spiritual’ or ‘enlightened’ or ‘transformed’ we are exactly not that and we have just replaced one self-image with another in our unconsciousness.

What I am now is free of the burden of pretending to be something I am not and that feels great and that’s why I am writing again.