When we need something it is negative and draining on us and the person we need something from. Often we think we need someone or something else to make us happy. This place a pressure on us and others. Often this negative energy pushes others away from us and thus heightens our needs and thus the pressure builds more.
If we simply enjoy being with others but concentrate first on creating our own happiness. Being responsible solely for our joy and happiness changes everything and sends out positive energies and we attract not repel.
Building a habit is hard if the rules are so strict and so rigid that there is no room for a slip.
We make the rules for our own life inside our head. We are the ones who make ourselves feel guilty or useless for not doing something. We are the ones who decide.
If we are following a particular diet, or workout, or productivity routine, then we are the ones who set the rules and if we break them, we are the ones who choose to punish ourselves or not.
The thing is, whatever you do in life, there are no rules if you decide, other than the ones we impose upon ourselves. So if we have been doing something every single day for months and then we forget one day, it simply doesn’t matter unless we make it so.
The reality is, it is easier to build and maintain a habit for life if we allow ourselves the odd slip without the need to punish or feel bad. If there is only rigidity in anything, then it breaks, it becomes negative and resistance builds.
Resilience is about flexibility, being able to bend gives us the ability to spring back from a slip or setback. It is positive as we feel we can bend, there is no pressure.
Philip Dodson 