When we need something it is negative and draining on us and the person we need something from. Often we think we need someone or something else to make us happy. This place a pressure on us and others. Often this negative energy pushes others away from us and thus heightens our needs and thus the pressure builds more.
If we simply enjoy being with others but concentrate first on creating our own happiness. Being responsible solely for our joy and happiness changes everything and sends out positive energies and we attract not repel.