The harsher we are with ourselves the harsher we are with others

We have to be understanding to others as no one is exactly on our page they are on their own unique page…maybe close to ours but maybe further away too. That doesn’t matter.

No ones page is right our wrong, it’s just different. We have to accept that, If we can’t accept others as they currently are we won’t be accepting of ourselves and that only leads to suffering and disconnection.

No one person will ever be exactly what we want, so we have to be compassionate or accept we’ll be alone.

We have to cherish what connects us not what separates us. We are conditioned to catch people doing something wrong not thanking them for what they do right.

We are all at different parts of our journeys and no ones is better or worse, just different.

However, if we have high expectations of others to match our rules or exacting expectations then no one will ever be good enough.

We have to be prepared to be flexible and compassionate or face the consequences of being too harsh with ourselves and others.

It’s their fault

We think it is other people, but it is all ourselves.

We choose how to react to others, we choose everything.

No one forces us to behave in any way at all, we choose every time.

When we look within for the answers life changes, when we seek to be a victim or blame others or situations, we get stuck in the smallness of our thinking mind.

When we look within we find the answers and we become accountable and take responsibility for our behaviour and choices. We then start to make choices from our truth, values and heart. We then choose to behave in an openhearted and kind way, with empathy, and understanding. We choose to see the other person and respect them.

It does not mean we have to agree with everyone or not have an opinion or voice of our own. It means that we act authentically, empathetically and free from any agendas, our ego and judgement.

When we blame others we are actually point the same finger out our behaviour.