Tag: judgements

Assumptions

Posted on by philipdodson

When we assume what others are thinking without knowing we make judgements and take action based on that evaluation. Often, without the faintest idea, we say ‘I know what they are thinking’. This is based on nothing but our prejudices.

We often stay in that mode even when we do ask them, as we are only seeing them through the filter of our own lens of judgement.

We have already decided what they will say as we want it to match our assumptions. Then we can say ‘see, I knew that’s what they were thinking/meaning/saying…I am right’.

True listening means without any evaluation, all we do is simply hear the words of the other. This is the only form of listening. It is only possible when we do not make up stories about others based on assumptions our mind has made to fit in with the story we hold about them.

It’s best not to create stories about others or ourselves either. It is best to hear and see people as they are and not as our mind wants us to see them. It changes communication completely when we see and understand the other person as they truly are.

Theories

Posted on by philipdodson

We so often in life add 2 and 2 and make whatever the mind wants it to be. No matter what others say or do, we always end up with the same theory in our head…because that’s what our story within wants.

Once we have a theory, and it always how it affects us and usually we see ourselves as being the victim, then the mind will filter anything it sees or hears with that theory. So everything fits the theory. We find what we are looking for regardless of the reality.

Then, unsurprisingly, our theory quiet often seems to come to pass!

We manifest our own reality by attaching ourselves to the mind and its thoughts.

If we just accept what is and allow others to be, we can just be too. Then whatever happens, happens, which it will anyway whatever we think. If we remove the judgemental lenses, then we see people and things without the need to evaluate or fit it to our ‘theory’. The theory is just a fantasy projection in our head into the fiction that is the unreal future…the future doesn’t exist except in our mind.

Drama always finds more drama, victims always become more victimised and bad things always find more bad things. We can choose to have none of it if we step away from the mind and its theories.