In life, we are waiting always for someone else to be first
We expect others to show us love, attention, kindness, compassion, all these things that we so crave, and then of course, when we don’t receive them, we are disappointed.
We are always in negative state of lack. Looking to others to fulfil it.
Like everything in life, the solution to the disappointment is within us.
Firstly, we should never look to others for our own happiness, love etc, all those things are our responsibility.
However, we need to ask ourselves ‘am I giving that to the World?’.
Answer will be ‘no’ as you can only lack something you are not giving yourself first and then to others.
If we want more hugs, we need to give those hugs first. If we want more love, we have to love ourselves and give that love to others. If you want more attention, we need to be truly attentive to others.
The World is always a reflection of our inner state and only us can control that inner state.
Be first and end disappointment. One small step towards change.
Philip Dodson 