When we say to another person that we are going to do something and then we don’t after a while of keep doing that we lose our integrity and others will not trust our word. They will feel that we do not care for them and that we are not a reliable person who will show up for them.
When we say inside to ourselves that we are going to do something and we don’t, it is just as damaging, in fact, it is the cause of our lack of keeping our word externally. We then are not showing up for ourselves, so we can never show up for others. We can never genuinely give to others what we do not give to ourselves.
It always starts with how we treat ourselves, if we have internal integrity, then it will be replicated in the external world.
Better to not say we will do anything than to say we will and then we don’t.
It is a habit that is easily changed. We just need to set ourselves one commitment each day inside and then do it. Do that process for a week, and then add another thing, and so on,
Changing habits takes one step at a time repeatedly over a long enough period to form a new habit.
We are not broken, we don’t need fixing, and we are worthy always, however, if we want to show up in our own life and that of others, we have to commit to being true to our word.
Philip Dodson 