What to do when fear comes knocking?

When the challenge comes, when the voice comes, when the fear arrives, when the doubt comes, when the old habits resurface, what do I do?

I allow my inner voice, my inner child, and my fears to be seen, to be understood, I welcome them as a guide and sign. I do not reject them or judge them, I simply hear them, understand them and allow them to be seen. I then offer my empathy, a hug, a there-there and I reassure my mind and my inner child that everything will be OK. I am here for them, I will support them, the universe is with me and all things will be OK.

I have to learn to trust that, I have to reassure those fears that everything will always be OK, no matter what and I have to lean into those fears and realise that I am moving forward and growing, which will always bring fear and uncertainty. The mind does not like change and fears any kind of risk to the status quo.

I am fearing moving on from my comfort zone, which is in fact, a discomfort zone, my soul wants to break out and be free and express itself and do all the amazing things that it wants to do. However, the mind and the ego want none of that, the inner child is frightened and all the old repeating habits and sabotage are being dug up to prevent me from moving on. Time to give them all a reassuring hug and support them and embrace those feelings and own them. Take a leap into the unknown…it’s where all the magic is.

It is a battle, but it is not a battle that has to be a negative fight or a struggle, it is one that my warrior spirit is going to lovingly work on to reassure my inner child that all will be alright, it is fine to step out onto the stage and be in the light, nothing will happen and everything will be ok.

If we learn how to nurture, protect, reassure and understand our inner child, mind and ego and give it a hug and support it, then it will be at peace too. When we resist it, fight it and create this inner conflict, then it naturally defends itself and will not be in alignment with ourselves.

In order to move on and be brave enough to be our true selves, we have to bring ourselves in alignment with our mind and body. Mind, body and soul in total alignment.

We are amazing and in order to allow that amazement to shine we have to be able to work in partnership with our mind and our body and we have to respect them and be with them. If we fight them and try to control them then it will create resistance.

Reassuring our inner child is key to helping us let go of fear and allowing fear to become our friend, to be our guide, and to walk hand and hand with it down our path. Fear is not bad or good, it just is and when we accept that and partner with it, lean into it and of with it, then we can overcome the fear and grow. We can achieve our very best when we embrace fear and do not fear the fear.

Quitting isn’t the answer

If we are sitting here on a Sunday afternoon dreading tomorrow and a return to our work, instead of enjoying the moment, the view, the chilling and time to contemplate, then maybe it is time to make a change.

Change does not have to be quitting your job, it might be seeing our jobs and life through a new lens, one that sees what is rather than looking for what our minds want to see and believe about them.

Our reality is uniquely ours as we create it in our thought and beliefs, so how I see the world will be completely different to every single one of the other 8 billion humans.

If I dread Monday, not only do I numb myself to now, my real life, I create anxiety within me and when Monday does come, I do not enjoy it and wish I was elsewhere.

Quitting something however does not solve the problem as whatever is or was troubling us is our internal state which then manifests the external world, so unless we change the internal state, nothing will change from changing jobs, cars, houses, partners, clothes whatever else.

When we accept what is, when we become present in this moment, we can then react from a place of calm and peace, we can change how we choose to see the world and if we believe that the world is what we want to be then we can change how we see all things. That means that we can still quit our jobs if they are not nourishing our souls and if they are not what we truly want to be doing from our heart and soul.

Quitting isn’t the answer…learning our why and doing things from our heart is.