Everything else is outside our control and any attempt to control someone or something else is a futility.
No one likes to be controlled by others and when we attempt it, it is simply manipulation.
We spend endless energy on attempting to control things that we cannot and the resulting suffering for ourselves and the people we try to control is a big part of the suffering in the world.
If we accept everything as it is, if we accept that we can only control our own life and if we let go of the expectation of doing so with something or someone and the manipulation we have to construct to do so, then peace comes within us and for the others that we are trying to control.
Events, the weather, actions of others, thoughts of others, others opinions of us, governments, banks, neighbours, partners, wife/husband/son/daughter…the list can go on and on, are not things that we can alter, so it’s best to just let it go, stop resisting it, stop fighting it and just be and let others be.
Once we get to this stage, we then have so much more energy and space within to concentrate on our own journey, happiness and growth. Our life is our responsibility and other people’s journeys are theirs.
There are surface thoughts all the time like a babbling brook, but underneath them are larger, often darker, recurring controlling thoughts, that if we allow, they shape our entire life. They live in the deep recesses of our mind, like in a dark corner of a cave. We are unaware of them.
We can through consciousness and being in this moment become aware of our surface thoughts and if we witness them and do not energise them, they dissolve and drift away like clouds in the sky on a windy day. But these are manifested by the deeper thought patterns.
The deeper, darker, repetitive and controlling thought patterns are there all the time like white-noise playing constantly and we are not often aware of them because they are there all the time, but they control the surface thoughts and our reactions, emotions, all that happens. They become what we think is us or we become them actually.
When we become aware of them over time, through continued consciousness and our spiritual practices, then we can see them and once we can see we can start to just witness them too, we can stop subconsciously energising them. We can shine our light into the deep recesses of the mind. Once we can dissolve the deep thought patterns we can go deeper and deeper into our true essence, being and soul. We can experience a different dimension to life.
We can transcend the mind-controlled state that is the false you and me and connect with the real true being and the unmanifested that is there. We can reach complete inner-peace and we can just be. We start to be life instead of having a fantasy mind-created ‘living situation’ made up of thoughts of the past and future.