Tag: responsibility

We make the choices

Posted on by philipdodson

We can not amend the past, or promise to be better in the future, as both the past and the future exist only in our minds and those of others. It is about what we choose to do now that counts.

Brene Brown brilliantly describes integrity as “choosing courage over comfort; it’s choosing what’s right over what’s fun, fast or easy; and it’s practising your values, not professing them”.

We can only practice integrity now, the only time we can ever do, change, amend, practice, act, say, feel or do anything. We can not practice it in the future or go back and do it in the past. Making amends is about doing it now. Building trust is about doing it now.

We make the choices in everything in our life. We need to be responsible and accountable for the outcomes of those choices. It all happens now.

It’s their fault

Posted on by philipdodson

We think it is other people, but it is all ourselves.

We choose how to react to others, we choose everything.

No one forces us to behave in any way at all, we choose every time.

When we look within for the answers life changes, when we seek to be a victim or blame others or situations, we get stuck in the smallness of our thinking mind.

When we look within we find the answers and we become accountable and take responsibility for our behaviour and choices. We then start to make choices from our truth, values and heart. We then choose to behave in an openhearted and kind way, with empathy, and understanding. We choose to see the other person and respect them.

It does not mean we have to agree with everyone or not have an opinion or voice of our own. It means that we act authentically, empathetically and free from any agendas, our ego and judgement.

When we blame others we are actually point the same finger out our behaviour.