Tag: joy

Worthy or not?

Posted on by philipdodson

We often believe that our worth is related to something we do for others.

It isn’t.

For a long time, I believed that I am only lovable and worthy if I helped others. This was based on a nonsense story I had built up and it stemmed from my childhood where I only received love and attention if I helped.

I have battled with this story all my life…I now realise it is not true. Of course, I still enjoy being helpful, however, now without the need to relate it to my worth as a person. Being helpful because I want to and it brings me joy and not doing it because I think that is the only way people will love me.

We are worthy from the day we are born to the day that we die…no matter what. No matter what we achieve or don’t.

We have nothing to prove.

We are all worthy of love and belonging.

Once we can accept this, it frees us to be ourselves.

The future is scary

Posted on by philipdodson

It’s the joy of the doing in this moment and not the outcome that matters.

When we give our energy and thought to the outcome then we enter the psychological time dimension of the future and all that brings is uncertainty as it is not real, it is just in our mind. So we suffer psychological fear which we can not deal with now. Present-moment fear we can deal with now, but fear of what might be is suffering.

When we just do, we actually enjoy it now, step by step, free from the fear of the outcome so we create our best. All of our energy and focus on the doing and, of course, each small step is a step nearer to the destination but without needing to keep looking at the map, we are just enjoying the road immediately in front of us.

Future is just a mental construct, but if we want to have a particular future, we can only have it now as when we get to any future moment, it will be still now. Now is the only time and when we stay away from the mind-made time dimensions of both past and future then we step away from suffering.

What we do now is the future we will have and if we do it now, it is not scary. The fear comes from thoughts of beyond now.

If we are present, then what we do is free from fear as we have not imagined an outcome that we can fear not achieving, all we experience is the pure joy of each tiny step. We create better when we are conscious.

We create very little of our truly amazing potential when we are consumed with thoughts of what might be.

Just be, just do and the future will take care of itself.