Tag: experience

Now is where we experience joy

Posted on by philipdodson

When we just do something, straight away, without thinking, it brings us simple pure joy. Not in the forward-thinking sense of completing an achievement, it is in the simple pleasure of this real moment now.

We can only ever do something now, of course, but all too often the doing is drowned out by the endless thoughts of the outcome, or whether or not we are doing it right, or if we should even be doing it at all, or how can we avoid doing so as not to expose ourselves to criticism and the list of thoughts can go on and on. So we do not experience joy when we are taken over by our thoughts.

Now is where we experience joy, only if we are disconnected from our thoughts.

Fixing and ego

Posted on by philipdodson

We all have a unique path and journey, each one of us. Just because we had a similar experiences that doesn’t mean that our friend, partner, child, parent or stranger had exactly the same. Additionally it may have occurred at a different part of our growth in life, we are different so how we reacted would have been different too, so the whole experience would have changed.

Essentially, it is better to listen, understand and empathise with our friend, partner, child, parent or stranger, rather than make about ourselves and our story, which they often may not want to hear or care about.

Fixing and telling others is not understanding, it is ego. If they seek our view or advice, that is different, but simply using the time in which the other is speaking to prepare our answer about our story is simply all about us.