Tag: compassionate

The harsher we are with ourselves the harsher we are with others

Posted on by philipdodson

We have to be understanding to others as no one is exactly on our page they are on their own unique page…maybe close to ours but maybe further away too. That doesn’t matter.

No ones page is right our wrong, it’s just different. We have to accept that, If we can’t accept others as they currently are we won’t be accepting of ourselves and that only leads to suffering and disconnection.

No one person will ever be exactly what we want, so we have to be compassionate or accept we’ll be alone.

We have to cherish what connects us not what separates us. We are conditioned to catch people doing something wrong not thanking them for what they do right.

We are all at different parts of our journeys and no ones is better or worse, just different.

However, if we have high expectations of others to match our rules or exacting expectations then no one will ever be good enough.

We have to be prepared to be flexible and compassionate or face the consequences of being too harsh with ourselves and others.

Breaking the cycle

Posted on by philipdodson

We often get stuck in a rut in life. I have been recently struggling with getting up at a regular time and then sleeping heavily. This then means I miss an important time of the day when the world is still silent and there is a moment to complete my daily rituals that ground me, bring me into the day and help me to form habits in other parts of my life.

I used excuse upon excuse but I was causing myself great suffering because I was saying that  I will get up at 6 am and then not do it. That was bringing a lack of trust in myself, it was compromising my integrity, causing doubt, and negativity, and prohibiting me from doing the deeply meaningful work that I want to do.

Integrity is about doing what you say, not just with others, but more importantly with ourselves. We can not be true to others if we do not first become true to ourselves. Integrity is about doing what you say when no one else is there.

Of course, there are going to be times that we cannot always do what we say, circumstances mean that we have to change our plans sometimes and, of course, we can be compassionate and kind to ourselves when for whatever reason, we just do not show up.

However, if we make it a constant thing, that we say one thing and then do not do it, then we are harming ourselves and others. We are killing our own self-confidence and trust in ourselves to be authentic and to show up.

Our worth is not affected ever by what we do or don’t do, we are still worthy and worthy of love no matter what. However, we can bring a great deal more joy, purpose and energy to ourselves and others by living by what we say and by endeavouring to live an integral life.

It is better to not commit to something than it is to commit and then not do it. The best is always to commit and do it.