Fear is popular

If we took just a moment to really analyse what we are told, hear, see and listen to, we’d see beyond the headlines, the soundbites, the carefully crafted words and pictures – the fear we’re sold and told.

We’d realise all that is pumped into us on daily basis by social media, the media, large corporations, small businesses, governments, our peers, in fact, anyone who can broadcast a message is mainly fear and scaremongering.

We suck it up, as it compliments nicely our own mind created fears, it allows us to reassure ourselves that the end of the world is upon us and best not to risk doing that thing or this. We can say in our heads ‘I told you it was…’ insert whatever fear scenario we’ve cooked up and then sooth ourselves with some click bait, social media and Netflix (maybe this is just me).

Fear is popular as it lets us all off the hook. But we end up like the rabbit caught in the headlights and that doesn’t end well.

Going back to the easy stuff

When we come across hard things we habitually tend to look for easy things to do instead.

We’ll convince ourselves we need a break, or that would be better tackled later when we’ll be ready. The thing is there never is a time called ‘ready’.

We will talk ourselves out of the hard challenges as it requires putting ourselves at risk and it is uncertain. We opt for easy. Easy is comfortable and brings instant gratification, a chemical feel-good fix inside.

The thing is when we opt for easy whenever we encounter hard things in the future we have conditioned ourselves to search for easy. It becomes a habit that leads us to shy more and more from risk, from challenges and it leads to the search for certainty and avoidance.

If we tackle the hard things, we create a different habit that starts to look for hard things and then we learn and get even better. Initially, it is tough, although 99% of the time the things are never anywhere near as hard as our mind will imagine them, however, like all habits it gets more rewarding and therefore sustainable.

We can always go back to the easy stuff afterwards when we’ve done the hard tasks. However, more often than not the easy becomes less and less appealing the same way the hard things do when we avoid them.

Going back to easy stuff fades. Avoiding hard things leads to nothing.