Want to change something?

If we want to change something, and of course, that is our choice completely, then we have to be prepared to make sacrifices and to build habits.

Nothing will change by chance and no point in relying on ‘gurus’, books, or others. Change is our responsibility alone and is an inside job.

When we choose something we want to change, then we have to monitor how we behave in regards to the change we want to make. No good if we want to be more patient, for example, and not noticing when we are still impatient. We can choose to carry on with the short-term ‘easy’ of ‘well, I’ll change that later’ or we can say to ourselves ‘I see that is not how I want to behave now, and I’m going to endeavour to not do that again’.

Change is always personal and if we feel there is nothing to change, that’s ok too as none of us are broken. However, unless we take constant regular steps towards making a change and monitoring it, then it won’t happen.

Risk is being ourselves

The biggest challenge we all face is letting go so that we do the things we really want to do.

We are tricked by our mind and its sabotage that it is easier to walk away from truly letting go and to stay in the safety of where we are.

The challenge is that this only causes us more turmoil and longer-term it becomes harder and harder.

We resist the things we fear the most, as the mind creates the fear and the further it is from what it sees as safety the more psychological fear it will create. We do not fear what we do not want or desire, we do not fear something that we are not interested in doing, or experiencing.

Yet this is the guide, fear is the guide, because safety is suffering and the mind and risk is living, is experiencing, is joy, is jumping off the diving board, and being truly ourselves.