We will never rise above the opinion we hold of ourselves.
The only way is to change our opinion to the level our soul desires and not what our mind restricts us to.
It is a simple fact that what we believe we are capable of doing or what we believe we are, is what we can do and what we become.
To change it isn’t easy, it’s a challenge and something that I have struggled with for most of my life.
The journey to changing starts with small steps, like anything one at a time, to replace negative thoughts about ourselves, simply say ‘no don’t want that’ when they come and then at the same time say something positive about ourselves to replace the negative thought.
Gradually, we start to form a habit of positive thought and by not energising the negative, we create space for creativity and positive beliefs that turn into positive action.
The other thing to do is to be more grateful for what we have and to take more time to create more joy in our life. When we feel joyful we feel better about ourselves and become more creative and increase our level of opinion about ourselves.
Like any change it is not about feeling broken, as no one is, it is about wanting to become even better.
When the challenge comes, when the voice comes, when the fear arrives, when the doubt comes, when the old habits resurface, what do I do?
I allow my inner voice, my inner child, and my fears to be seen, to be understood, I welcome them as a guide and sign. I do not reject them or judge them, I simply hear them, understand them and allow them to be seen. I then offer my empathy, a hug, a there-there and I reassure my mind and my inner child that everything will be OK. I am here for them, I will support them, the universe is with me and all things will be OK.
I have to learn to trust that, I have to reassure those fears that everything will always be OK, no matter what and I have to lean into those fears and realise that I am moving forward and growing, which will always bring fear and uncertainty. The mind does not like change and fears any kind of risk to the status quo.
I am fearing moving on from my comfort zone, which is in fact, a discomfort zone, my soul wants to break out and be free and express itself and do all the amazing things that it wants to do. However, the mind and the ego want none of that, the inner child is frightened and all the old repeating habits and sabotage are being dug up to prevent me from moving on. Time to give them all a reassuring hug and support them and embrace those feelings and own them. Take a leap into the unknown…it’s where all the magic is.
It is a battle, but it is not a battle that has to be a negative fight or a struggle, it is one that my warrior spirit is going to lovingly work on to reassure my inner child that all will be alright, it is fine to step out onto the stage and be in the light, nothing will happen and everything will be ok.
If we learn how to nurture, protect, reassure and understand our inner child, mind and ego and give it a hug and support it, then it will be at peace too. When we resist it, fight it and create this inner conflict, then it naturally defends itself and will not be in alignment with ourselves.
In order to move on and be brave enough to be our true selves, we have to bring ourselves in alignment with our mind and body. Mind, body and soul in total alignment.
We are amazing and in order to allow that amazement to shine we have to be able to work in partnership with our mind and our body and we have to respect them and be with them. If we fight them and try to control them then it will create resistance.
Reassuring our inner child is key to helping us let go of fear and allowing fear to become our friend, to be our guide, and to walk hand and hand with it down our path. Fear is not bad or good, it just is and when we accept that and partner with it, lean into it and of with it, then we can overcome the fear and grow. We can achieve our very best when we embrace fear and do not fear the fear.
Philip Dodson 