Tag: kindness

A deeper life

Posted on by philipdodson


Superficial likes.

Manipulation.

Cheating.

Judgment.

Trolling.

Bullying.

Hate.

Racism.

Meanness to others.

Shallowness, because we want to fit in, to be popular, to be in the crowd. This behaviour has to be learned.

We can choose as a human race to teach ourselves to live a deeper, richer life. To unlearn the mean society we have collectively created and allowed.

We could choose to be kind, be compassionate, be giving, be empathetic and be loving.

Think, say and do only good things.

After all, none of us like to be on the receiving end of shallow self-centred behaviour.

We can all choose to be strong and be the change we want to see.

Don’t fit in.

It takes courage but the world needs all of us to be part of the change, to do our bit.

We don’t have to be fearful of setting boundaries, being the person we really are, having the courage to be different. If we are brave and be ourselves, then the right people will be attracted to us and it will inspire others to follow.

No good waiting for others and no good being shallow just to fit in.

Who’s in for living a deeper life?

Others work is great not ours

Posted on by philipdodson

If another person, say in your team, company, in a group or within your community does a piece of work, maybe some art, a poem, a song, a piece of writing or whatever it is, we are most often kind, thoughtful in our feedback and we would certainly speak kindly to the person who had created it. We may offer some feedback, some may even be critical, but the default is to say the good first and if anything bad, afterwards.

We see others work and only look for what is good and often think ‘wow, that’s better than my work’ or ‘I could never do that’.

When we come to ourselves and our own work, we are unable to immediately praise ourselves for the good points, we often are unable to see them, blind to anything good. We go straight to the unkind, critical, unhelpful feedback. We are only looking for what we could do better rather than saying what was great about it.

This is born out of the conditioning that society imposes on us to always do better and this keeps us all working harder and harder. It leads to perfectionism and that, in turn, leads to an unrealistic expectation of our work and therefore disappointment if it is not entirely perfect.

We need to be our number one fan and not be our biggest critic. We need to change the habits and almost look at our work and think, if this was someone else’s work, what would I say to them?

Perfectionism is not only futile and dull, it leads to certain disappointment and a never ending downward spiral of lessening confidence.

Be kind to you and love your work, why wouldn’t you?