Tag: judgement

Filters

Posted on by philipdodson

When we make assumptions about situations or people, we create filters that block us from seeing situations and people in any other way than the filter we created about them.

This only then reinforces these falsehoods that we have created based on absolutely nothing other than our mind’s fantasies. The mind likes to have the beginning, middle and end of everything and when it only has bits of the story it fills in the gaps. However, it never fills the gaps with positive thoughts and assumptions, only fear-based negative assumptions.

The better option is to be curious and ask people what they mean or feel. Observe situations and resist the temptation to make judgements. Don’t fill in the blanks and stop the suffering. This removes the filters and then we can see situations and people as they are not as we have believed them to be.

Mind the gap

Posted on by philipdodson

The mind doesn’t like gaps. It needs a beginning, middle and end. If it doesn’t have it and doesn’t know the answer then it fills in the gaps.

It never fills in the gaps with positive stuff, it fills in the blanks with negative things based on the stories and judgments it’s already made up about others and situations.

Rather than actually finding out by asking another person or actually researching a specific situation, the mind makes up the story.

Then from this fantasy story made up in our heads we act and react stuck in our unconscious mind patterns.

Ask others, be curious and stay away from the repeating thoughts. The more present we are in this moment, the less our mind is filling in the blanks. The less we suffer from our own stories based on nothing.

Stay aware and mind the gap.