What we have constructed

Just think how many times we have bought something, liked something, eaten something, done or said something, even partnered someone because it fitted out story and our ego.

Yet deep down we sensed the things our the people weren’t right for us.

Just think how much simpler and joyful we would be if we followed our soul, our true essence and heart. If we went with our real feelings and not acted to be popular, fit in or live to a lifestyle that fits the self image our mind at its ego have constructed.

It’s a choice we can make.

The conundrum of fitting in

The easiest thing to do is fit in and the most challenging is to be our true self. Fitting in and being ourselves are nearly always at the opposite ends of the spectrum.

Fitting appears easy and we believe it will bring us happiness, however, the overriding of our true essence in order to fit in causes us deep suffering and conflict, it prohibits true happiness.

Not fitting in and being on our own unique path requires us to be in the ‘wilderness’ and that seems scary and requires us to be vulnerable and courageous. We have to overcome the psychological fears created by our minds and ego, the uncertainty, the risk, the fear of being isolated and unliked.

However, being our true self brings us the greatest peace within and long-lasting joy. Once we go down that path and commit to it, it becomes easier and easier. When we focus our energies on this present moment and let go of the story, the ego, the narratives in the mind, then it becomes easier for our true essence to shine.

Fitting in denies us the real life that our soul wants to have.