We are now almost unable to cope with unexpected.
We have been conditioned so long to safe, certain, risk-free, ironclad, sure things that when the wheels come off, we seem to go into individual or collective meltdown.
Human beings came from the plains of Africa 70,000 years ago to inhabit every corner of the globe and thrived on what was around the next corner, thrived on unexpected, relished the adventure that is the magic of life and overcame unbelievable obstacles and setbacks.
Now, if the milk is one day out-of-date panic breaks out.
Plain sailing never stays that way, look forward to the unexpected and drop the fear of it. Life is amazing when we do not know the outcome.
When we are unsure what to do or what to say in situations in life, we often stay stuck or try to second guess what the other person might want or we want to avoid offending so we end up being wishy-washy and uncertain.
The best strategy is to be 100% us. What would I want the other person to do or say if they were in my shoes? That is the best thing to do. Say what we’d want to hear, do what we’d want to receive.
We can never second guess the response of others and some will like what we do and say and many won’t. However, the ones who like what we do and say will love us more if we are genuinely 100% ourselves.
Trust comes from being genuine not trying to please everyone and seeking to avoid offence.