When the mind does not have all the answers about something or someone it fills in the gaps.
It doesn’t fill the gaps in with positive stuff, it fills it in with the worst-case.
We then act on those made-up stories towards others and react based on that fiction.
Then the reaction we get back from others only provides the mind with more fuel for these stories will tell ourselves about the world and other people.
Instead of filling in the blanks, we can ask and become curious, we can go and seek to understand other people. We can choose to listen first and to listen without evaluation so that we actually truly see people as they are and not as we believe them to be.
Don’t filling the blanks, instead listen, be curious and find out the true story.
Philip Dodson 