Tag: relationships

Relationships, simple really

Posted on by philipdodson

If we want to enjoy a successful relationship with another person we need to learn to accept the other person as they are… completely. We are not here to change others.

We need first to understand them, before we try to be understood. They want someone to listen not tell them, like all of us, but we have to listen first.

Don’t wait for them to say sorry, do not punish or be a victim. Be ourselves 100%. Be first and let go of our story and ego.

Love them unconditionally, which is what love from the soul always is. Not the neediness of the mind.

We need to make ourselves happy and not rely on them. Free them from that burden and ourselves from the disappointment our expectations will always bring.

Expect nothing of them and simply enjoy them for who they are.

The route to success is always found in our hearts and souls, it’s love pure and simple. That’s all.

Fixing and ego

Posted on by philipdodson

We all have a unique path and journey, each one of us. Just because we had a similar experiences that doesn’t mean that our friend, partner, child, parent or stranger had exactly the same. Additionally it may have occurred at a different part of our growth in life, we are different so how we reacted would have been different too, so the whole experience would have changed.

Essentially, it is better to listen, understand and empathise with our friend, partner, child, parent or stranger, rather than make about ourselves and our story, which they often may not want to hear or care about.

Fixing and telling others is not understanding, it is ego. If they seek our view or advice, that is different, but simply using the time in which the other is speaking to prepare our answer about our story is simply all about us.