The excuse factory

There are 3 steps to starting anything in life…1,2,3 GO!

Or we can, of course, complicate it, the mind is a top-level specialist at over-complication, along with perfection, it is one of its top weapons to prevent showing up and taking any risk. It is the excuse factory that will create reasons not to do something, the more levels of complication, the more thought and the more reasons to put off.

Simple small steps are easy, we can just start them…1,2,3 go.

If we break down any goal, plan, task, or action into small baby steps, that if done and repeated frequently, will over a given time period propel us to our goals.

As we are doing the tiny steps, the mind is silent as there is no perceived risk, it goes under the ‘fear’ radar undetected, and we get to our goals because guess what? we are actually doing something regularly. The journey of a thousand miles starts with just one step…as the saying goes.

It requires focus, commitment and a willingness to build a habit and, of course, patience. Like all things, when we do them frequently, they become easier and there is a compound effect that we see much greater achievement than we imagined if we do them often enough and for a long enough time.

Short-term quick ‘wins’ that require huge amounts of effort and overcoming the fear of starting mammoth tasks, always fail as we never get out of the starting blocks. There are no shortcuts and the mind’s psychological fears of any large daunting tasks are impossible to overcome without just focusing on the small step that can be done now.

Keep things simple, do them often, stay focussed in the moment that is now and don’t think beyond that. The excuse factory can be closed forever, it just takes one small step.

Move on

When something becomes an effort and there is no joy, when we deep down know that something isn’t what we want, then it is time to let go and move on from that thing or person or whatever situation.

Of course, our mind will get us to believe that it is us or we have done something wrong, or we must try harder and so on. We cling on to a job, or friendship or anything, hoping to ‘fix’ it or to keep it as it was. But all things are temporary.

Things or people are meant to be or not. They can come and go from our lives or be there forever. A thing or a person may serve a purpose for a period, sometimes for a very short time and sometimes for much longer and then we have grown or evolved, or they have, and it is time to let go and move on. There is no reason for it, it just is and if we accept it, then we let go of pain and suffering within. We no longer blame ourselves.

We do not need to make an evaluation of the thing or the person, no need to search for a reason, there is no need for judgement, it is just a feeling from within that tells us that it is no longer suiting our journey and it is time to just move on and let go. However, the mind and its ego look to hold on or to convince or to make us do more or there is guilt.

Just be at peace with all that is, just accept that it is no longer for us and choose a new direction, a new start and always focus on our inner wisdom and intuition…trust it and just be.