Tag: disappointment

Be your own happiness

Posted on by philipdodson

When we search outside ourselves for someone or something to fulfil us, to bring us happiness, to fix us, to…whatever, it never brings us anything other than disappointment.

We place an expectation on things, events, other people and so on, however, it always fails as things, people etc will always fall short of our expectation.

Suffering is the difference between expectation and what actually is.

With other people, this expectation creates a burden on them, and this causes them suffering too.

Expect nothing of the exterior world and seek all that you want of it within you. We are here to create our own happiness and when we focus on that, all our energies shift and we are free from disappointment and expectation, it frees others too.

Be your own happiness.

We are all living a ‘walter mitty’

Posted on by philipdodson

We all live a version of a ‘Walter Mitty’ story in our heads, we create these fantasy versions of ourselves, that we act out in our heads, and in many way, in our actions and behaviours in the exterior world.

The challenge is though, that this ‘better’ or more exciting life/story that we create never really materialises and this leads to disappointment. We are dissatisfied, so we create a ‘better’ life, that never happens and then there is only further suffering, always seeking better rather than allowing the amazing human soul that we all are shine bright.

We expect that our ‘Walter Mitty’ life will become real, but it never does, and that leads to a feeling of lack and discontent. It becomes a spiral with no escape from these created personas.

If only we realised that if we let go of all the stories, the fantasies, the roles, the ‘Walter Mitty’ and actually let our true essence shine that we all have the most amazing life and journey to have.

When we are free from the burden of the stories, then we can be at peace within and then we can truly enjoy life now as our true self.