Tag: advice

Lighthouses

Posted on by philipdodson

We do not need to set out to help others…people are not broken and do not need fixing.

Yet we set out with what we believe is a good intention to change or fix others as they appear broken through the lens of our mind’s view of them. They haven’t asked to be fixed or changed and what was good for our journey isn’t their journey. We are all on our own path.

Of course, we can be a light and example for others to help them if they need it or to inspire them.

After all, a lighthouse does not sail the seas looking for ships to help, it shines its light for them when they need it.

Don’t tell me

Posted on by philipdodson

It’s easy to tell others and give them advice, our ego likes the feeling of importance, especially when we feel we know better or do something better than the other person. It gives us a feeling of superiority and that’s what the ego loves.

It is far harder to be the example and take our own advice, we then have a raft of internal excuses as why it wouldn’t work for us or there are other factors to take into account, so is is ‘just not that simple’.

The thing is, it is always better to be an example for others to follow, if they choose, than it is to tell others what they ‘should’ do. At the end of the day, while some experiences are similar, we are all on our own unique journey, we are all different, and what might work for us, isn’t necessarily what might work for another.

If someone ask directly for our advice, then we can give them our view, however, most people want support, empathy, understanding and someone to listen to them, not to be told.