Don’t tell me

It’s easy to tell others and give them advice, our ego likes the feeling of importance, especially when we feel we know better or do something better than the other person. It gives us a feeling of superiority and that’s what the ego loves.

It is far harder to be the example and take our own advice, we then have a raft of internal excuses as why it wouldn’t work for us or there are other factors to take into account, so is is ‘just not that simple’.

The thing is, it is always better to be an example for others to follow, if they choose, than it is to tell others what they ‘should’ do. At the end of the day, while some experiences are similar, we are all on our own unique journey, we are all different, and what might work for us, isn’t necessarily what might work for another.

If someone ask directly for our advice, then we can give them our view, however, most people want support, empathy, understanding and someone to listen to them, not to be told.

Alternative views

When we allow things to happen to us without offering any different viewpoint, then we are agreeing with it outwardly.

Accepting what is and surrendering to this moment doesn’t mean outwardly agreeing with everything and allowing others to behave in whatever way they choose.

Accepting inwardly allows inner peace no matter what, there is no denial of what has happened. However, it still gives us the opportunity, from a place of peace, to offer our view which can be different.

We have a world where increasingly there is just one voice and anyone who speaks against it is to be considered dangerous and a conspiracist.

Those who accept this outwardly risk a great deal. We need to have alternative views and we need to be able to question.