Evaluation

‘There are no good or bad people that come to our lives. There are only teachers’, I think it was the Buddha that said that.

It’s a very interesting perspective, as many people cross our paths in our life, sometimes for just a moment, sometimes a few weeks, a few months, some years or maybe a lifetime. It is the mind that judges and labels people ‘good’ or ‘bad’ based on our lenses that we view the world through. What if we accepted that each person has something to teach us and looked for that instead?

If we step away from the judgement and choose to look out to the exterior world without evaluation, then we see people for the soul that they are, we hear the words they actually say, we appreciate what they teach us. We truly see them and become willing to appreciate what they can offer to guide us or be an example to us.

Everything in life is an experience, and an opportunity to learn something or to just appreciate the beauty of each new experience. When we stop the ‘good’ or ‘bad’ label we appreciate this amazing moment of life for what it is, and each and every moment. We appreciate others instead of judging them.

It’s our evaluations that stop us growing not good or bad people, they only teach if we allow ourselves to see it.

Attachment to our opinions

The challenge with attachment to our opinions is it means we have to defend them. If we are adamant internally that our opinion is right no matter what, then our ego is at stake and we have to defend them to the ‘death’. Well actually, very often it is literally to the death. This damages our relationships with others and causes us suffering within.

Opinions are just a view, a temporary mental form, and there is no right or wrong and if we accept that they just that and place no personal attachment to them, then there is no need to fight, no need to resist any other view and no need to experience any negative emotions when others do not agree with our view.

Surrendering to acceptance of things is not weakness, it is a strength, that you can let go and accept others and their views for what they are. It doesn’t prohibit ourselves from expressing our views whenever, however, it just stops the pain and suffering of defending our views at all costs and stops affecting our relationships with others.