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Unconditional

Posted on by philipdodson

We talk about this concept of unconditional when it comes to love. But that is crazy, as love is our true self, essence, and soulful state of being. Our soul is pure love.

The idea that there is a need to define it as unconditional is the same as when we say ‘I like animals’ as if that is something special. Why wouldn’t you like animals!!! Or ‘I really like children’…again WTF, why wouldn’t you like children??? It isn’t something special it is default innate behaviour.

The same with love, there isn’t conditional love, that’s just mind-created manipulation. To take ‘love’ away as a punishment is all part of our unconscious mind-driven behaviour patterns. It is not understanding what love is. Need infatuation and attention seeking from others is not love. Lustful desires are not love.

Love isn’t an emotion it is our essence of what we are and can’t be taken away. If you want to see love, spend time with a dog. They show you love no matter what and it is not for gain it is their default soulful behaviour, well maybe they’re after a biscuit sometimes!

The future is scary

Posted on by philipdodson

It’s the joy of the doing in this moment and not the outcome that matters.

When we give our energy and thought to the outcome then we enter the psychological time dimension of the future and all that brings is uncertainty as it is not real, it is just in our mind. So we suffer psychological fear which we can not deal with now. Present-moment fear we can deal with now, but fear of what might be is suffering.

When we just do, we actually enjoy it now, step by step, free from the fear of the outcome so we create our best. All of our energy and focus on the doing and, of course, each small step is a step nearer to the destination but without needing to keep looking at the map, we are just enjoying the road immediately in front of us.

Future is just a mental construct, but if we want to have a particular future, we can only have it now as when we get to any future moment, it will be still now. Now is the only time and when we stay away from the mind-made time dimensions of both past and future then we step away from suffering.

What we do now is the future we will have and if we do it now, it is not scary. The fear comes from thoughts of beyond now.

If we are present, then what we do is free from fear as we have not imagined an outcome that we can fear not achieving, all we experience is the pure joy of each tiny step. We create better when we are conscious.

We create very little of our truly amazing potential when we are consumed with thoughts of what might be.

Just be, just do and the future will take care of itself.