The conundrum of fitting in

The easiest thing to do is fit in and the most challenging is to be our true self. Fitting in and being ourselves are nearly always at the opposite ends of the spectrum.

Fitting appears easy and we believe it will bring us happiness, however, the overriding of our true essence in order to fit in causes us deep suffering and conflict, it prohibits true happiness.

Not fitting in and being on our own unique path requires us to be in the ‘wilderness’ and that seems scary and requires us to be vulnerable and courageous. We have to overcome the psychological fears created by our minds and ego, the uncertainty, the risk, the fear of being isolated and unliked.

However, being our true self brings us the greatest peace within and long-lasting joy. Once we go down that path and commit to it, it becomes easier and easier. When we focus our energies on this present moment and let go of the story, the ego, the narratives in the mind, then it becomes easier for our true essence to shine.

Fitting in denies us the real life that our soul wants to have.

The challenging moments

When we feel good, it’s easy to keep going. When we are in a peaceful environment, it’s easier to remain calm. When we are not under pressure, it’s more straightforward to be relaxed.

It’s the challenging moments in life that are harder to just be and to not react. To remain calm and at peace in the face of adversity or danger that show our true consciousness and connectedness to our true essence.

Peace is in an inside job and in whatever exterior circumstances it’s our willingness to stay within our soul and away from our thoughts, reactions and ego that maintain our calm and acceptance.