Tag: kindness

Worth a try?

Posted on by philipdodson

What do we tell ourselves internally? How do we speak to ourselves?

My guess…we speak badly to ourselves, we tell ourselves all kinds of stories based on the psychological fears that our mind creates.

Interestingly we do not say good things to ourselves, we don’t focus being kind to ourselves.

This is a choice that we make every day, without hesitation, in our unconscious mind-state, we are not even aware of these repeating patterns, and we are not aware of the damage it does to our mental and physical health.

We could, of course, choose to become more conscious and step away from the unkind narratives. Just think how things would change if we decided to be kind to ourselves. Worth a try?

The uncomfortableness of kindness

Posted on by philipdodson

We do not know how to accept kindness.

We feel have to reciprocate.

We expect a burden.

So we resist.

We think there’s a catch.

Or we feel beholden to the kind person.

True kindness is always without expectations and comes from our soul, from our true essence and we do it because it brings us joy not for a return.

However, we are conditioned into the ‘one good turn deserves another mentality’ and therefore, there is much false kindness, that is really manipulating others as there are conditions and expectations.

This is why we have become uncomfortable with kindness.

The simple way to change this is by example, to only offer unconditional kindness from the heart, where it is our joy that is the focus and not getting something.