Tag: challenges

Keeping change going is tough

Posted on by philipdodson

The road to change is a long one and a challenging one at times.

The challenge is, you have to deal with realisations that the person you once were, or still sometimes are, wasn’t always the person that you are proud of. Made choices, that you now see as bad ones.

On the road to change, you have to accept that you were wrong in the past. It takes courage to accept that you were wrong or your choices were bad.

The easy route is to carry on believing that it’s others who were wrong, that you do not need to change.

We are all human, so there is no judgement if we slip occasionally, if we are not perfect. The thing is, if we extend that kindness to ourselves, which we could choose to do, we could also choose to extend that kindness to others, as they are human too.

If learning was easy I’d be smart

Posted on by philipdodson

I’ve discovered rather painfully, on more than one occasion in life, that learning for me is tough.

It requires me to understand others and me, which means listening.

It then requires a willingness to change and to realise that the choices that I’ve made and continue to make, have consequences for me and others.

It requires me to leave the right and wrong behind and to be accountable, responsible but free from reproaching me and others.

Learning is one of the hardest things I have to do.

I realised most of all that I can only do it if I want to.

If learning was easy, perhaps I’d be smart, but the struggle of learning makes all that more satisfying and lasting.

On with the struggle, the baby steps to learning pay off if I’m patient.