Getting back on track

We are all human, we are not robots, we are not perfect, we all make choices that with hindsight weren’t the best.

Our initial reactions and our habits often lead us to go off track. It is not that we set out to mess up, no one ever does. It is often when we have allowed anger or hurt or any combination of emotions to cloud our initial reaction to being the wrong choice.

This in itself does not matter, what counts is learning to recognise that we are going off track, recognise the triggers, is then the next step. What we can eventually learn is to handle the situations that trigger these reactions differently. Still, though it requires one more thing once we see the triggers or we recognise that we are reacting badly, that is to get back on track by letting go, by stepping back and changing behaviour, by changing our mindset, by changing the reaction. It is the vulnerability to be able to switch from one course, that we know is wrong, and relinquish to what we know is a better choice.

It requires us to move out of blame thinking, it requires us to step away from having to win, to not being seen as weak by stepping back from an angry reaction. There is nothing wrong with making a bad choice, the damage is done to ourselves and potentially others when we continue to go off track knowingly and stay stuck.

All of this is not easy to learn and requires empathy and patience with ourselves. But like anything that is hard in life, it’s what makes a difference and it’s what matters. For me, this is an ongoing work in progress as someone who has had a lifetime of being right and having to win.

Keeping change going is tough

The road to change is a long one and a challenging one at times.

The challenge is, you have to deal with realisations that the person you once were, or still sometimes are, wasn’t always the person that you are proud of. Made choices, that you now see as bad ones.

On the road to change, you have to accept that you were wrong in the past. It takes courage to accept that you were wrong or your choices were bad.

The easy route is to carry on believing that it’s others who were wrong, that you do not need to change.

We are all human, so there is no judgement if we slip occasionally, if we are not perfect. The thing is, if we extend that kindness to ourselves, which we could choose to do, we could also choose to extend that kindness to others, as they are human too.