Getting back on track

We are all human, we are not robots, we are not perfect, we all make choices that with hindsight weren’t the best.

Our initial reactions and our habits often lead us to go off track. It is not that we set out to mess up, no one ever does. It is often when we have allowed anger or hurt or any combination of emotions to cloud our initial reaction to being the wrong choice.

This in itself does not matter, what counts is learning to recognise that we are going off track, recognise the triggers, is then the next step. What we can eventually learn is to handle the situations that trigger these reactions differently. Still, though it requires one more thing once we see the triggers or we recognise that we are reacting badly, that is to get back on track by letting go, by stepping back and changing behaviour, by changing our mindset, by changing the reaction. It is the vulnerability to be able to switch from one course, that we know is wrong, and relinquish to what we know is a better choice.

It requires us to move out of blame thinking, it requires us to step away from having to win, to not being seen as weak by stepping back from an angry reaction. There is nothing wrong with making a bad choice, the damage is done to ourselves and potentially others when we continue to go off track knowingly and stay stuck.

All of this is not easy to learn and requires empathy and patience with ourselves. But like anything that is hard in life, it’s what makes a difference and it’s what matters. For me, this is an ongoing work in progress as someone who has had a lifetime of being right and having to win.

A change of mind

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Often we get paralysed by fear, especially when it comes to changing our mind about something.

We feel that if we change our mind and do not go ahead with something, especially when we have shared that plan out loud with the world, that we are being weak and that others will judge us. We will feel like we are unable to complete something.

Actually to change your mind and to change direction is brave, strong and requires the ability to admit that the path wasn’t for you.

We are all human and we make decisions based on what we know up to the point that the decision is made. It is based on our emotions and mindset at the point.

Naturally they alter over time and we can change our mindset, emotions and encounter new experiences and knowledge that lead to a new direction or path.

We can make the rules for our lives and that means we can change them and adapt them to what suits us. It is our choice and not that of others. Other people can make their choices too, but to not change because of what others make think will only hold us back from doing what is right for us.

The weaker and less analytical plough on regardless often through fear and often because they haven’t yet realised that change is needed. Doing something different is how we progress.