Tag: beliefs

filling in the gaps

Posted on by philipdodson

When the mind does not have all the answers about something or someone it fills in the gaps.

It doesn’t fill the gaps in with positive stuff, it fills it in with the worst-case.

We then act on those made-up stories towards others and react based on that fiction.

Then the reaction we get back from others only provides the mind with more fuel for these stories will tell ourselves about the world and other people.

Instead of filling in the blanks, we can ask and become curious, we can go and seek to understand other people. We can choose to listen first and to listen without evaluation so that we actually truly see people as they are and not as we believe them to be.

Don’t filling the blanks, instead listen, be curious and find out the true story.

Our opinion of ourselves

Posted on by philipdodson

We will never rise above the opinion we hold of ourselves.

The only way is to change our opinion to the level our soul desires and not what our mind restricts us to.

It is a simple fact that what we believe we are capable of doing or what we believe we are, is what we can do and what we become.

To change it isn’t easy, it’s a challenge and something that I have struggled with for most of my life.

The journey to changing starts with small steps, like anything one at a time, to replace negative thoughts about ourselves, simply say ‘no don’t want that’ when they come and then at the same time say something positive about ourselves to replace the negative thought.

Gradually, we start to form a habit of positive thought and by not energising the negative, we create space for creativity and positive beliefs that turn into positive action.

The other thing to do is to be more grateful for what we have and to take more time to create more joy in our life. When we feel joyful we feel better about ourselves and become more creative and increase our level of opinion about ourselves.

Like any change it is not about feeling broken, as no one is, it is about wanting to become even better.