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Sorry, I’m being me, before I explode

Posted on by philipdodson

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Life can make us feel like we want to explode.

We are pressured to fit in to other people’s agendas or views, we feel we need to not ‘rock the boat’ or to say ‘yes’, when actually we know instinctively that something is not for us.

However, there is this pressure to not let others down, or to do something as it is ‘the right thing to do’.

When we get pressured to follow other people’s agendas, it never ends up well for either party.

We end up doing stuff reluctantly and then feel the need to be apologising when we deliver what we know to be sub-standard or below the par set by others.

We end up apologising all the time, we say sorry to others, sorry for not being ourselves!!

We need to learn to say ‘no’ and we need to learn to do what is right for us. Then we will be happy and better able to serve the people in our lives that matter. The people who will not judge us by their way of doing things, and will accept a ‘no’, knowing that you are being genuine.

Those who cannot accept you, are not the people we are looking for in life.

It is hard to learn, but once you master it, you will get more done for you. After all it is your life.

How kind is your business?

Posted on by philipdodson

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In a world dominated with ‘where is the money it that?’ mentality, it is sometimes seen as weak, or even difficult to even contemplate, considering the notion of kindness in business.

We confuse kindness with doing something for free in order to manipulate others to reciprocate. Many people think it is clever to leverage the basic human instinct to return a favour. I can hear the guru’s saying ‘give and then take’.

I can hear the words of the much lauded Gary Vee ringing in my head ‘give, give, give and the take em for all they’ve got’ or something like that, maybe it’s ‘Jab, Jab, Right Hook’.

Kindness is doing something for others for no gain, other than the chemical release in our own bodies that makes us feel good, makes us happy. This is not a selfish act in a malicious way, it is a way of making us happy, after all happiness is a choice.

So choose acts of random kindness in your business and make yourself happy and spread that happiness to your customers and potential customers, spread to all the humans that interact with.

Simply because you can and simply because creating happiness in your life and that of the others you connect with is a pleasure not to be missed.

After all what is life about, if it isn’t for enjoying the journey.