Tag: relationships

Ego driven?

Posted on by philipdodson

If you want to see if you are driven by your ego or not, wait until the next time someone criticises you, or someone cuts you up in traffic, or has a different opinion, or offers to do something for you that you are struggling with, or doesn’t reply to your message, or talks about their new car, pay rise, expensive holiday…see if there is a reaction inside you and then see if you actions reflect that reaction, look at what you say or do. See how your mind feels threatened and acts to protect.

When we look at the things we react to and think about it for a moment then we realise the insanity and triviality of it all. If we are disengaged from the mind and its ego, we do not become the reaction, we do not feel the need to boast ourselves to others or protect ourselves. We let these things go and accept what is, we do not feel there is any position to defend or any threat, as there isn’t.

The threat is just a construct of the mind and it is not a real physical danger, it is an imagined threat to our fake self-image.

The repeating mind patterns are there all the time, hidden in the endless noise of our minds and are so every day that we don’t even recognise them.

Just be the silent witness to it all and let go of the ego. See how life, relationships, everything changes. Worth a try, a chance to experience peace and calm. Nothing matters unless we choose to suffer.

There is always something wrong

Posted on by philipdodson

There is always something wrong if you look for it. Especially if this is the filter that your mind uses.

Looking for something wrong yields wrong-doing always and that wrong enables our mind to react, complain, it allows our ego to be justified. It makes us feel superior, that is what the ego needs in its vulnerable state.

Yet, the pointing out or reacting to things that are wrong, and that is ‘wrong’ only in our minds, doesn’t make anyone else feel good. Interestingly though, the person who suffers most is the person who seeks the wrong-doing and does the pointing out, as they are the ones that are doing the judging. A judgement of others is, in fact, a judgement of ourselves.

It is a reflection of our own discontentment that leads us to manifest that in criticism of other people’s behaviour, with the hope, that catching others misdemeanours or mistakes somehow will elevate us above them and brings salvation to us.

The insecurity of the ego leads to continued pain and suffering, do not look for right or wrong in ourselves or others, accept them and ourselves for what we are and do not form opinions or judgements. This way there is peace within and within our relationships with others.