Tag: problems

Fixing and ego

Posted on by philipdodson

We all have a unique path and journey, each one of us. Just because we had a similar experiences that doesn’t mean that our friend, partner, child, parent or stranger had exactly the same. Additionally it may have occurred at a different part of our growth in life, we are different so how we reacted would have been different too, so the whole experience would have changed.

Essentially, it is better to listen, understand and empathise with our friend, partner, child, parent or stranger, rather than make about ourselves and our story, which they often may not want to hear or care about.

Fixing and telling others is not understanding, it is ego. If they seek our view or advice, that is different, but simply using the time in which the other is speaking to prepare our answer about our story is simply all about us.

The problem with problems

Posted on by philipdodson

Problems are only a problem if you choose to label it as that. Problems are a mind-construct based on projection to a future moment where the mind chooses to imagine a situation that can be labelled as problematic, which then induces psychological fear within us and the resulting emotional state in the physical body.

The mind, its ego and the story of ‘little me’, or more accurately ‘poor little me’, thrives on the drama of problems and if we do not have any, there are always others who have plenty that we can latch onto too.

Instead we can realise that right now, this moment, there are no problems, there are only real life situations, and I’m not a betting person, however, if I was to bet, I’d put a sizeable bet down that says you have no problems right now in this very moment you are reading this.

We may from time to time, and again fairly rare, have a situation that occurs in the present moment, and we can either deal with it right now, or we can’t and therefore, we can choose to let it go. If we are conscious in this moment, then things that happen now can cause no suffering as we have not had any time to imagine the suffering that the situation may cause, we just accept something has occurred and we deal with it.

As soon as the mind projects forward into the unreal realm that is the future, then the mind can, of course, find endless problems to suffer fear, worry and be anxious about. But why would we choose to do that?

Instead, if we remain conscious, then we have no problems anymore, and whatever occurs now, we can simply deal with.

Therefore, the problem with problems is that we have to choose to have them.