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Be honest

Posted on by philipdodson

When we are honest in our relationships we stop the other person from having to wonder. When we withhold the truth and we conceal our true feelings and thoughts, the other person will sense something and because they do not know the truth, they will fill in the blanks. Our mind has to have the answer, the beginning, middle and end. When it does not, it fills in the blank and always in a bad way.

If we share our truth with others we free them from the suffering of not knowing and it enables us to truly connect in a very deep way that is not possible when we put up our shields to hide the truth from others.

Being honest with others stops us either building up and resenting others, which usually leads to an explosive outburst and hurt for all, or we say nothing and suffer because we did not speak our truth and we did not respect ourselves.

The only ingredients that we must not leave out ever from speaking our truth are kindness and empathy towards the recipient of our truth. If we leave them out we will only hurt and damage our relationships.

Why does integrity matter?

Posted on by philipdodson

When we say to another person that we are going to do something and then we don’t after a while of keep doing that we lose our integrity and others will not trust our word. They will feel that we do not care for them and that we are not a reliable person who will show up for them.

When we say inside to ourselves that we are going to do something and we don’t, it is just as damaging, in fact, it is the cause of our lack of keeping our word externally. We then are not showing up for ourselves, so we can never show up for others. We can never genuinely give to others what we do not give to ourselves.

It always starts with how we treat ourselves, if we have internal integrity, then it will be replicated in the external world.

Better to not say we will do anything than to say we will and then we don’t.

It is a habit that is easily changed. We just need to set ourselves one commitment each day inside and then do it. Do that process for a week, and then add another thing, and so on,

Changing habits takes one step at a time repeatedly over a long enough period to form a new habit.

We are not broken, we don’t need fixing, and we are worthy always, however, if we want to show up in our own life and that of others, we have to commit to being true to our word.