Tag: flexibility

The harsher we are with ourselves the harsher we are with others

Posted on by philipdodson

We have to be understanding to others as no one is exactly on our page they are on their own unique page…maybe close to ours but maybe further away too. That doesn’t matter.

No ones page is right our wrong, it’s just different. We have to accept that, If we can’t accept others as they currently are we won’t be accepting of ourselves and that only leads to suffering and disconnection.

No one person will ever be exactly what we want, so we have to be compassionate or accept we’ll be alone.

We have to cherish what connects us not what separates us. We are conditioned to catch people doing something wrong not thanking them for what they do right.

We are all at different parts of our journeys and no ones is better or worse, just different.

However, if we have high expectations of others to match our rules or exacting expectations then no one will ever be good enough.

We have to be prepared to be flexible and compassionate or face the consequences of being too harsh with ourselves and others.

Resilience is about flexibility

Posted on by philipdodson

Building a habit is hard if the rules are so strict and so rigid that there is no room for a slip.

We make the rules for our own life inside our head. We are the ones who make ourselves feel guilty or useless for not doing something. We are the ones who decide.

If we are following a particular diet, or workout, or productivity routine, then we are the ones who set the rules and if we break them, we are the ones who choose to punish ourselves or not.

The thing is, whatever you do in life, there are no rules if you decide, other than the ones we impose upon ourselves. So if we have been doing something every single day for months and then we forget one day, it simply doesn’t matter unless we make it so.

The reality is, it is easier to build and maintain a habit for life if we allow ourselves the odd slip without the need to punish or feel bad. If there is only rigidity in anything, then it breaks, it becomes negative and resistance builds.

Resilience is about flexibility, being able to bend gives us the ability to spring back from a slip or setback. It is positive as we feel we can bend, there is no pressure.