Tag: fiction

filling in the gaps

Posted on by philipdodson

When the mind does not have all the answers about something or someone it fills in the gaps.

It doesn’t fill the gaps in with positive stuff, it fills it in with the worst-case.

We then act on those made-up stories towards others and react based on that fiction.

Then the reaction we get back from others only provides the mind with more fuel for these stories will tell ourselves about the world and other people.

Instead of filling in the blanks, we can ask and become curious, we can go and seek to understand other people. We can choose to listen first and to listen without evaluation so that we actually truly see people as they are and not as we believe them to be.

Don’t filling the blanks, instead listen, be curious and find out the true story.

Theories

Posted on by philipdodson

We so often in life add 2 and 2 and make whatever the mind wants it to be. No matter what others say or do, we always end up with the same theory in our head…because that’s what our story within wants.

Once we have a theory, and it always how it affects us and usually we see ourselves as being the victim, then the mind will filter anything it sees or hears with that theory. So everything fits the theory. We find what we are looking for regardless of the reality.

Then, unsurprisingly, our theory quiet often seems to come to pass!

We manifest our own reality by attaching ourselves to the mind and its thoughts.

If we just accept what is and allow others to be, we can just be too. Then whatever happens, happens, which it will anyway whatever we think. If we remove the judgemental lenses, then we see people and things without the need to evaluate or fit it to our ‘theory’. The theory is just a fantasy projection in our head into the fiction that is the unreal future…the future doesn’t exist except in our mind.

Drama always finds more drama, victims always become more victimised and bad things always find more bad things. We can choose to have none of it if we step away from the mind and its theories.