Our opinions and judgements become obsessive. We want to be right, there is our ego at stake and we will defend our views, sometimes at any cost. Our judgements cloud our view, we only see ourselves and others through the lens of the judgement of our mind.
What if we choose to stop having an opinion, firstly of ourselves, and then of others? What if we choose to stop judging ourselves and others, to simply observe without evaluation?
Worth a try perhaps, as our opinions of ourselves and of others, our judgements, lead to pain and suffering within and to pain and suffering for others.
What we do to fit in is go against our true self, instinct and essence. It is a condition of the mind that drives us to not want to be seen as different, exposed or at risk from ridicule or being ostracised. It is all driven by our ego and its fragility.
True vulnerability, as Brene Brown would say, is being able to brave the wilderness and be wholehearted. That takes a huge amount of consciousness and acceptance of what is to be able to truly be and to truly be our soul and pure essence. We have to be prepared to walk the other way to the crowd.
On the surface, it is easier to fit in. However, only in the short-term, as fitting in and going against our true self creates inner suffering and pain.
Once we become conscious and true to ourselves, the pain fades, and we become braver and no longer in fear of the wilderness that being ourselves requires.