Tag: resistance

I’m demotivated

Posted on by philipdodson

When we slip from our routines, when we ‘fall off the wagon’, miss our workout, overeat, miss something out, sleep in, basically run out of steam, our conditioned response is to fight it, dig in, toughen-up and push harder.

That resistance leads us to fall further, the negative energy where we are fighting what is leads to further demotivation.

If we choose, however, to accept that we are a little tired, or demotivated, or suffering a deeper internal mental turmoil, then the letting go brings a break in the cycle, it allows us to breathe, it allows us to relax and just go with the flow of it.

Usually when we ‘hit the buffers’ it is a sign to stop, to relax, to change our routine, to just go with it. That way we can move on instead of continuing the battle with it and the struggle only gets tougher.

If we trust out feelings, then we will know that the mind is troubled and causing this demotivation, that is the point to accept these feelings, identifying them allows us to become conscious and present, it allows us to detach from these mental struggles that have brought the fatigue, the struggle, the lack of motivation.

Let go, accept, breathe and stop fighting…peace will come and motivation will return to us now.

Resilience is about flexibility

Posted on by philipdodson

Building a habit is hard if the rules are so strict and so rigid that there is no room for a slip.

We make the rules for our own life inside our head. We are the ones who make ourselves feel guilty or useless for not doing something. We are the ones who decide.

If we are following a particular diet, or workout, or productivity routine, then we are the ones who set the rules and if we break them, we are the ones who choose to punish ourselves or not.

The thing is, whatever you do in life, there are no rules if you decide, other than the ones we impose upon ourselves. So if we have been doing something every single day for months and then we forget one day, it simply doesn’t matter unless we make it so.

The reality is, it is easier to build and maintain a habit for life if we allow ourselves the odd slip without the need to punish or feel bad. If there is only rigidity in anything, then it breaks, it becomes negative and resistance builds.

Resilience is about flexibility, being able to bend gives us the ability to spring back from a slip or setback. It is positive as we feel we can bend, there is no pressure.