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What if this happens and then…

Posted on by philipdodson

Whatever happens now, we will cope with it. We always cope with now, this moment.

Every other event is of our imagination, the mind creates them, and as it is not happening now, it isn’t happening at all, it is just a projection of the mind into the uncertain and unreal future.

We can’t cope with that so we suffer and it creates psychological fear. We worry about things we alone have created in our mind and by choice too.

Ask yourself ‘is anything happening now?’…the answer I can predict will be ‘no’.

So therefore, there is nothing to worry about. Just keep applying that easy test every moment until we realise, that to be honest, rarely much happens to worry about.

Relax and enjoy now.

Resilience is about flexibility

Posted on by philipdodson

Building a habit is hard if the rules are so strict and so rigid that there is no room for a slip.

We make the rules for our own life inside our head. We are the ones who make ourselves feel guilty or useless for not doing something. We are the ones who decide.

If we are following a particular diet, or workout, or productivity routine, then we are the ones who set the rules and if we break them, we are the ones who choose to punish ourselves or not.

The thing is, whatever you do in life, there are no rules if you decide, other than the ones we impose upon ourselves. So if we have been doing something every single day for months and then we forget one day, it simply doesn’t matter unless we make it so.

The reality is, it is easier to build and maintain a habit for life if we allow ourselves the odd slip without the need to punish or feel bad. If there is only rigidity in anything, then it breaks, it becomes negative and resistance builds.

Resilience is about flexibility, being able to bend gives us the ability to spring back from a slip or setback. It is positive as we feel we can bend, there is no pressure.