How did you speak to yourself today?

How did you speak to yourself today?

Did you say kind things? Were you patient? Did you praise yourself? Did you treat yourself like the you would others? Were you empathetic to yourself? Were you your number one fan?

Funny how we can be so unkind to ourselves and hurtful, and yet, shudder at thought of speaking in that way to other people.

If we let go of the story, the ego, the self-image, then there is nothing to measure against, nothing to be unkind to ourselves about. Comparison to our self-image allows for a feeling of not being good enough and therefore a need to be unkind with the voice within.

Always start with being kind to ourselves, every day.

The need to measure

If you measure your life based on achievements, well what you achieve is what you feel you are worth.

If you measure your life based on money, well what money you have is how valuable you feel.

If you measure your life on friends on social media or likes or any other form of attention, then how many friends, likes, and attention you have/get is how loved or appreciated or special you’ll feel.

If you measure your success on material things, such as a house, car, belongings then how much stuff and how big your stuff is will determine your success.

If you measure your life on the job and the title then the bigger the perceived job and title, the more important you’ll feel.

The challenge with measuring your life in any way is that all forms are temporary, so the big house or important job will go, the money in the bank too. In fact, it all will, including your own physical carnation.

In order to measure, you’ll have to compare yourself to others and there will always be someone you perceive to have more, so you will actually find yourself in a constant state of dissatisfaction and constant lack.

Finally, our worth is not measurable, we are born with a deep inner soul, that is worthy whatever occurs in the mind-possessed state that most live their lives, the one full of comparison, measurement, judgement and our ego-lead story of ‘me’.

In a fully conscious and aware state, we realise that this current moment is all that matters and so whatever happened or whatever we had before is not relevant it is gone, it is just memory in our mind.

Real soulful life is free of the need to measure, it is about just being.