Tag: love

Unconditional

Posted on by philipdodson

We talk about this concept of unconditional when it comes to love. But that is crazy, as love is our true self, essence, and soulful state of being. Our soul is pure love.

The idea that there is a need to define it as unconditional is the same as when we say ‘I like animals’ as if that is something special. Why wouldn’t you like animals!!! Or ‘I really like children’…again WTF, why wouldn’t you like children??? It isn’t something special it is default innate behaviour.

The same with love, there isn’t conditional love, that’s just mind-created manipulation. To take ‘love’ away as a punishment is all part of our unconscious mind-driven behaviour patterns. It is not understanding what love is. Need infatuation and attention seeking from others is not love. Lustful desires are not love.

Love isn’t an emotion it is our essence of what we are and can’t be taken away. If you want to see love, spend time with a dog. They show you love no matter what and it is not for gain it is their default soulful behaviour, well maybe they’re after a biscuit sometimes!

Worthy or not?

Posted on by philipdodson

We often believe that our worth is related to something we do for others.

It isn’t.

For a long time, I believed that I am only lovable and worthy if I helped others. This was based on a nonsense story I had built up and it stemmed from my childhood where I only received love and attention if I helped.

I have battled with this story all my life…I now realise it is not true. Of course, I still enjoy being helpful, however, now without the need to relate it to my worth as a person. Being helpful because I want to and it brings me joy and not doing it because I think that is the only way people will love me.

We are worthy from the day we are born to the day that we die…no matter what. No matter what we achieve or don’t.

We have nothing to prove.

We are all worthy of love and belonging.

Once we can accept this, it frees us to be ourselves.