Tag: life coaching

Unconditional

Posted on by philipdodson

We talk about this concept of unconditional when it comes to love. But that is crazy, as love is our true self, essence, and soulful state of being. Our soul is pure love.

The idea that there is a need to define it as unconditional is the same as when we say ‘I like animals’ as if that is something special. Why wouldn’t you like animals!!! Or ‘I really like children’…again WTF, why wouldn’t you like children??? It isn’t something special it is default innate behaviour.

The same with love, there isn’t conditional love, that’s just mind-created manipulation. To take ‘love’ away as a punishment is all part of our unconscious mind-driven behaviour patterns. It is not understanding what love is. Need infatuation and attention seeking from others is not love. Lustful desires are not love.

Love isn’t an emotion it is our essence of what we are and can’t be taken away. If you want to see love, spend time with a dog. They show you love no matter what and it is not for gain it is their default soulful behaviour, well maybe they’re after a biscuit sometimes!

Why does integrity matter?

Posted on by philipdodson

When we say to another person that we are going to do something and then we don’t after a while of keep doing that we lose our integrity and others will not trust our word. They will feel that we do not care for them and that we are not a reliable person who will show up for them.

When we say inside to ourselves that we are going to do something and we don’t, it is just as damaging, in fact, it is the cause of our lack of keeping our word externally. We then are not showing up for ourselves, so we can never show up for others. We can never genuinely give to others what we do not give to ourselves.

It always starts with how we treat ourselves, if we have internal integrity, then it will be replicated in the external world.

Better to not say we will do anything than to say we will and then we don’t.

It is a habit that is easily changed. We just need to set ourselves one commitment each day inside and then do it. Do that process for a week, and then add another thing, and so on,

Changing habits takes one step at a time repeatedly over a long enough period to form a new habit.

We are not broken, we don’t need fixing, and we are worthy always, however, if we want to show up in our own life and that of others, we have to commit to being true to our word.