Tag: kindness

How did you speak to yourself today?

Posted on by philipdodson

How did you speak to yourself today?

Did you say kind things? Were you patient? Did you praise yourself? Did you treat yourself like the you would others? Were you empathetic to yourself? Were you your number one fan?

Funny how we can be so unkind to ourselves and hurtful, and yet, shudder at thought of speaking in that way to other people.

If we let go of the story, the ego, the self-image, then there is nothing to measure against, nothing to be unkind to ourselves about. Comparison to our self-image allows for a feeling of not being good enough and therefore a need to be unkind with the voice within.

Always start with being kind to ourselves, every day.

Unconditional love for ourselves

Posted on by philipdodson

It’s important not to derive our self-worth from the exterior world. As we can not control the exterior world and therefore futile to base anything on it. It only brings us suffering as the measures we are conditioned to use always mean we feel like we are never enough.

We are born worthy and we die worthy, no matter what. It’s unconditional. That’s a fundamental thing for all human souls.

So often we look to what others say, or achievements, our status and so many other unimportant things to measure whether or not we are worthy, worthy of love. We suffer from the feeling of lack of worthiness and we feel we are not worthy of love.

Once we accept this we can change the internal narrative to kindness and unconditional love for ourselves. We are always worthy of love.

When we are true to ourselves, no compromise, then we release ourselves from the burden of the exterior world and our ego..we no longer need to seek exterior worth. As Brene Brown beautifully puts it ‘true belonging doesn’t require you to change who you are; it requires you to be who you are’.